You should start helping yourself. I understand that some people are going to help you, but you have to do it for yourself. Don’t be anybody’s punching. Don’t be useless. Don’t get used to sitting on the couch everyday.
Think for yourself. Start becoming independent. Feel good about doing things for yourself. Only you can make it happen for yourself. Read a book on how to do things like for example cooking. It is not s hard.
Think for yourself and don’t let others think for you. I think by following these simple rules. You will start feeling free of yourself. You will be independent.